family drug interventions
Does anyone know anything about interventions?Do you think they are the right thing to do?
My older brother and sister both in their 30’s,are both crack/cocaine abusers.My sister has lost everything that should have been her reason for living(3 children,boyfriend,family),and my brother has 2 children also,that he sees on occasion.We just lost one of our older brothers in April due to a cocaine overdose,I don’t understand why that wasn’t a wake up call for them…they both recently moved in my fathers house,neither work,help out w/ anything,I know the reason my dad lets them be there is b/c he just can’t handle losing another child,and he thinks they are behaving,they’re not!I’ve watched the Intervention show on t.v. and it seems to help,but thats t.v. I just hate seeing this go on I don’t want to lose another sibling,espeacially to drug overdoses…but I don’t know how to go about helping them….and I know I can’t help them unless they want to be helped…..HELP!!!!!
What a horror for you to stand by and see this happening … and with your father’s loss — I can see that his Grief (yes, GRIEF and self-blame for the Choices that his ADULT (yes ADULT!) child made) — is AFFECTING his decision to NOT see the problems that your siblings are causing to THEMSELVES … thus, he is ENABLING their Continual Irresponsibility and Drug Addictions.
PLEASE find a counselor — and TAKE your FATHER with you — because you BOTH need to deal with the issues involved here — and your FATHER is the one who is going to NEED to take action …
And this can mean that ALTHOUGH he LOVES his Children tremendously — he also needs to use TOUGH LOVE — say “I WILL be there to listen and care about your welfare …. but …. until you get CLEAN and SOBER (and can maintain that) … then …. DEAR (Drug Abusing Children’s Names here) … I WILL not continue to ENABLE your choices in life, and you MUST now decide — DECIDE to EMBRACE life without the Substances (By going to Rehab/Detox), or … you are going to have to MOVE OUT TODAY — and you will NOT be welcome in MY HOME without Sobriety — period. This does NOT mean that I love you any less, but … it is with the ULTIMATE Love for you that I gave freely when I helped create your life that I WILL want you in TREATMENT at this time. YOU must respect me, as your Father, and CARE for yourselves — I taught you the best I could to VALUE life, but now … you have determined that LIFE itself is of NO Value to you. Therefore, it is with this UNCONDITIONAL LOVE that I will make this decision today. Your bags are packed, the Locksmith is changing the locks as we speak, and here is your FINAL Chance.”
YES, Intervention IS a good choice in this situation. YOU can’t (and neither can your father!) make the choices for them … but …
YOU and YOUR FATHER can REFUSE to enable their Addictions — and make them take the Adult Responsibilities for their Behaviors.
You are a model. Teens are watching you and how you handle crisis situations in your life. family drug interventions They look at your problem solving skills and often times use them as their own. So if you solve your problems with alcohol, they may do the same.
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